Posted in gender presentation, labels

We Exist and That’s Pretty Radical

We Exist and That’s Pretty Radical
wherein I disagree with a recent article from Slate

A recent article from Outward: “Slate’s home for coverage of LGBTQ life, thought, and culture.” by Delilah Friedler entitled Gender Collusion poses the following question in its subtitle: People living outside the binary used to be outlaws. Now, gender nonconformity is fashionable. Can the GNC community still claim to be radical?

The article hones in on the appropriation of gender nonconforming identities by corporations – especially in the fashion industry – and calls for a rejection of this superficial victory. Friedler’s article has two main points: 1) “As a genderfluid person myself, I’m concerned that our normalization comes at the expense of our radical edge.” and 2) the urging in an investment in “the things that make us different and strive toward forms of liberation that will never be for sale.”

I’ve got some issues with these, so let’s address them one at a time. (more…)

Posted in gender presentation, general non-binary stuff

What Are We Supposed To Do With These Things? — boobs, binding, and finding a balance —

Breasts, boobs, ta-tas, melons, etc., etc., etc. What’s a genderqueer/non-binary AFAB (assigned female at birth) to do with them?? Of course, the true answer is – whatever you want! But let’s drill down a bit… (more…)

Posted in gender presentation, labels, Quick Trips

Quick Trip: “Where Have All the Butch Dykes Gone?”

Where Have All the Butch Dykes Gone?” is the title of a November 2017 article by Caitlin Cruz in the online publication them. It has the enticing subtitle “they haven’t disappeared — the gender binary has.” With a subtitle like that, I assumed there would be a good deal of discussion about non-binary individuals who embrace the butch aesthetic (yay! That’s me!). I also (perhaps selfishly) assumed that there would be discussion about non-binary gender identities more broadly, especially with teases like this quote, “But watching the changing state of gender has been a balm for Jule.” However, the article never really addresses non-cis gender identities other than tangentially – definitely a tease lacking a satisfying follow-through. (more…)

Posted in community, gender presentation, labels, my identity story

How I Know I’m Genderqueer

Last time on Gender Fog Blog…

I had fantastic role models in my life – from my mother to my sisters (who are 9 and 11 years older than I am) to various aunts and family friends – that celebrated and modeled the wonderful variety of womanhood.

So, why, in spite of all those great models of the myriad ways to be a woman, do I feel most comfortable calling myself genderqueer/non-binary? Here are some of my thoughts – in no particular order: (more…)

Posted in gender presentation, my identity story

What (Not) to Wear?

Did you know that American author Willa Cather used to dress in men’s clothes occasionally and sometimes went by “William?” Her sexuality has long been speculated to be lesbian, but this gender non-conforming behavior isn’t well known or much discussed, which I think is unfortunate!

I used to hate shopping and looking in the mirror. Now, I love it. Okay, not completely without reservation – I’m no Narcissus (the guy, not the flower) – but I certainly don’t make furtive glances in the mirror like I used to. (more…)